One of my China adoptive mom friends has designed one of the cutest t-shirts! On the back of the shirt there are over 60 names listed of adopted children...OUR lil guys name is on there! They just accepted a referral of a special focus 21 month old little girl. Please check out their shirts and consider ordering one.
Thursday, October 25, 2012
Two years ago we finally got the call we had been waiting 1 1/2 years for and got to see the face of our son that we had been dreaming about and praying for.
With the Ethiopian program through our agency they work off a wait list to give referrals -based on each families parameters. We had known the Friday before that we were "unofficially" #2 on the boys list. Also, we knew that on Oct. 18th there were 10 children brought into Hannah's Hope-our agency's transition home in Addis Ababa...so to say it was a l-o-n-g weekend is an understatement!
That Monday we tried to keep things "business" as usual...home schooling, errands, chores...anxiously waiting for either hubby's or my phone to ring-we even had special ring tones to know if it was our case manager calling! Well it was getting close to dinner time -our agency is in a different time zone... I was busy getting dinner ready reflecting on all the referrals given out lately and assuming we were NOT getting "the call" while doing dishes the words from Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord..." kept repeating through my mind.
And then it happened! The unique ring on my phone! It was our case manager!
"B"ask "May I speak to Carrie?" (which was always funny to me! I was the only one who answered that phone!)
I said, "Hi B are you calling to tell me about my baby?" to this she replies, "Yes, I am! Is this a good time?"(like I'd say "umm no- can you call me tomorrow"!!!) so I started getting teared up and running through my house like a crazy lady trying to quietly get my kids attention! Which they were all excitedly jumping all around! Hubby was at a college class that night! (Of course - and the only night that semester that he couldn't skip class!) So "B" offered to conference call him in! Yay! BUT that meant I had to handle the documents and picture downloads on the laptop alone...ahh yea-that is not my gift! Thankfully my son helped me get it all set.
So the call took over an hour to read through all the documents and hear the history, medicals and information regarding our son-we didn't open the pictures yet. At the end of "the call" we need to let the agency know if we want to move forward with this child. We had agreed that if we did get our referral while hubby was in class we would at least wait and look at the pictures the 1st time together and pray before moving forward. So we told "B" we would call her back the next day.
Waiting for hubby's class to get over so he could come home seemed to take forever! By the time he got home we prayed then reviewed the documents it was after midnight! Finally we opened the pictures to see this beautiful face! He took our breathe away...we knew he was the one the Lord planned for us!
Isaiah 25:1 Lord, you are my God; I will exalt you and praise your name, for in perfect faithfulness you have done wonderful things, things planned long ago.
|Our son~ his Ethiopian name is Temesgen- which means "thank you God"|
It was so surreal...when waiting for your referral you imagine what its going to be like when "the call" actually happens. We always assumed we would be together on the call-hubby was gonna come home from work...didn't happen that way. We had prayed many times during our wait for discernment and peace when we did get our referral. While waiting for hubby to come home I was praying and I felt God wanted me to look back in my prayer journal. I pulled it out and the exact week that the Lord broke down my wants and desires and put in my heart His desires for us to add to our family through adoption was the EXACT same week his birth mom would have learned she was expecting! Wow...the Lords hand was in this no doubt about it. That is where faith comes in...just take the leap to follow the Lord in His plans.
We were surprised with all the different thoughts and emotions we experienced. We were extremely overjoyed to see him yet grieving the losses that goes along with adoption....that's how it is with adoption - there has to be a loss otherwise there wouldn't be a need. We were shocked at the weight we felt just looking at this little guy knowing we had to say yes or no....it wasn't that we ever thought of saying no but just the significance of saying yes...you just don't get that option when you give birth. We were (and are) thankful that God chose us to be his parents but humbled why us?
This has been an amazing journey this far...not easy- but so rewarding. One blessing is that we get to see a physical earthly example in our home of how our Heavenly Father loves us and adopts us into His family. We are thankful that the Lord saw fit in His infinite wisdom to bless us with our little guy.
Sunday, October 21, 2012
Monday, October 8, 2012
October was the month we first saw our lil guys face...more often than usual I find my thoughts wandering to Africa. My heart is HEAVY as I think of his loving birth mother...how is she doing, does she ache for him, does she replay that day over & over in her mind, is she healthy and fed with access to clean water to drink?
Grieving for her as I look at my five wonderful blessings and could not EVER imagine having to make that choice- she made one of the biggest sacrifices ever imaginable...to love someone so much to let them go so that they may have a chance... Humbled that the Lord allowed us to be a part of His plan for our lil guys life.
One thing I know for sure is that she has Jesus to get her through and we will all be in Heaven together -what a glorious picture that is! HOPE that only our Lord and Savior can give. See one part of this story I will share is that she is a believer of Jesus Christ...during our meeting with her the one thing she really wanted our lil guy to know is "that her and her family are all strong believers in Jesus Christ" WOW! that was a huge answer to prayer...Thank you Lord.
If you could please pray for our lil guy and his birth mom. Thankful for the HOPE we have because of Jesus and for the truths in scripture:
Job 29:12 Because I delivered the poor who cried for help, And the orphan who had no helper.
Duet. 10:18 He executes justice for the orphan and the widow, and shows His love for the alien by giving him food and clothing.
John 14:18 I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.
Psalm 68:5 Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Romans 8:15 For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, "Abba! Father!"
Romans 8:23 And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies.
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Thursday, October 4, 2012
Mornings are one of my favorite times of the day with Lil guy...when he wakes up I usually bring him into my bed with me for "snuggle time" sometimes we fall back to sleep or we just lay there, often we make pretend coffee for mama (he knows what his mama likes!), mostly we just talk and snuggle. Yesterday morning he said one of the cutest things EVER- I was telling him that mornings are one of my favorite times of the day with him cause we get to cuddle together.
I asked him, "When you get bigger will you still snuggle with me?"
Lil guy- " I little"
Me- "Yes, you are my little baby."
Lil guy- "You my big mama."
Too cute! Hubby thinks that's great and has claimed it as a new nickname for me...ummm don't think so honey -but it was cute out of lil guys mouth.
Later at night while getting him ready for bed Lil guy asked me, "You happy?"
I said "Yes, I am with you- are you happy?"
Lil guy, "Yes."
Me, "Why are you happy?"
Lil guy, "Cause she's (points to 3rd blessing) happy."
I said, "What makes you happy?"
Lil guy, "Um, God...Zeezus (Jesus)
Me(tears in eyes), "Oh, bless your heart."
Lil guy starts singing the song I have song to him often at night since coming home we call
Bless You song...
Adoption is not always easy, it is not a one time event - it is a lifetime, BUT it is moments like these that warms our hearts and makes it sooo worth it. Thanking the Lord for putting Lil Guy in our lives.
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
We had a busy weekend! Friday Hubby was off and we went on a field trip with a few of our home school friends to a planetarium. After we all went to a park to let the kids play - even my big kids will join in and play tag! One of the things I appreciate about home schooling is my kids do not have to be "too cool". After, we left the park for a meeting with our youth pastor to discuss college options for our 1st born (aaahhh- 1st born going to college and a new lil coming from China all in the same year...). Hubby and I were not Christians when we went to college so we really appreciate and are thankful for the godly wisdom and counsel we received for our son.
Saturday we got up kind of early and went to my favorite farmers market. While I go for the organics & healthy stuff the family goes to the bakery there and gets doughnuts (the super sweet good homemade bakery kind- that give you head rush from all the sugar!). Actually that is how I bribe them to come...gotta let them splurge once in a while. Anyways, after we headed to Gr**nfield Vi**iage for their fall days.
They had a farmers market set up there also, field work and fall plowing demonstrations and historic cooking at several of the houses.
It really makes me thankful for my modern appliances and indoor plumbing with hot water! Our girls collected yummy recipes they hope to make soon.
|My lil girl is growing up- so beautiful|
|My two goof balls!|
|Blessed to be their Momma|
Hubby, 3rd, 4th, and 5th blessing all went on the train ride. That is all the Lil guy wanted to do so he was super excited! 1st and 2nd blessing wanted to go to the gift shop to look around (I think it really was for the fudge samples) so that is where we went.
|excitedly waiting for the train|
|what a beautiful smile-he was very happy to be on the train|
Sunday we went to church. I worked in the Toddlers room with Lil guy, this will be the 1st year that our family will not all be in church together ever, because at least one of us each Sunday will be serving somewhere during service. Kinda different for us but we look at it as "training" for next year when 1st blessing is away at college.
On Sunday night 1st blessing completed his first college application...to be at this point with our son and to look back and see all that the Lord has done in his life makes us excited to see what He has planned for his future.
|monkey see - monkey do!|
Also, on Thursday my sister and brother-in-law had their fourth child - a son. So they now have been blessed with 3 sons and 1 daughter. We are thankful that the Lord graciously blessed her desire to have a VBAC and He gave her the strength and ability to do so. If you could pray for Quinn he will require surgery soon to repair a small cleft lip.