We are so thankful for this opportunity for several reasons mostly because we know this works with kids from hard places and we have seen so much growth in all our children as well as how we are as parents. There are not any other parent trainers anywhere near us so we look forward to and are thankful for the opportunity to share this healing and connected parenting style with other parents that have kids from hard places. Lastly because we know by us leading classes on this it will encourage us to keep using these tools with our children.
How this all happened was...the short version is this all happened with us on our knees crying out for help and for God to use this situation and us for His will, purpose and glory. The long version of the story is like this-so you know that nudge you get from the Lord that prompting (
This past year had been very rough for us for several reasons but one of the biggest issues was the feeling we had of being completely alone in this journey and the struggles it brought. By Gods providence we found two monthly support groups within an hour of our home that just started! We began attending them both and long story short the healing began - we realized the struggle is real and we were not alone...it wasn't just us not being "good enough" parents.
In the spring there was another Empowered to Connect conference we attended a simulcast of it. The idea to apply to become parent trainers kept coming to both our hearts/minds again along with the thought of doing the Created to Connect Bible study. The following week after one of our support groups Hubby and I met up with some couples after for coffee. A woman from the group she had also attended the simulcast sat down next to me and said "Did you see they have a Bible study to go along with The Connected Child - I want to do that?" (We had brought the guide with us to the adoption agency where the group is held and had just talked to the leaders right before heading to the coffee shop telling them how we think God wants us to lead this and would they share it in the agency) I said "yes my husband and I want to do this but don't have a place to have it" to that she said "I will have it at my home if you will lead it." Childcare came up next I had already told our middle two girls how we felt God wanted us to do this and if we do would they be interested in babysitting for our little two or even possibly being the childcare for all the couples attending...to that they had a resounding yes. So this lady said "We would just need to find childcare I have a big basement where the kids could all play while we do the study upstairs." I let her know about my girls and she loved the idea so we began making plans for the study -we ended up with five couples and 12 children!
In the meantime somethings were said to us from various people and we still were feeling like maybe we should apply to become parent trainers. Which we struggled with because we knew how much we fail as parents. We finally did the application - when hitting the send button we prayed if this is Gods plan what ever you will. Over a month went by and we never heard anything so we just assumed it wasn't Gods plan.
One day a friend who runs one of the support groups we attend sent me a text asking hubby and I to pray if we would ever consider becoming ETC parent trainers because her church wants to pay to have a couple in the area certified. I basically told her we had already applied and we were waiting to hear back. Two hours later we got the email apologizing for the delayed response and that they had been swamped with applications but would like to invite us to become trainers!
We are so humbled and excited to be apart of this and hope that we can bring hope and healing to families by giving them the tools to empower, connect with and correct their children. We surely do not get this right every time and are excited to be on this journey and see what God does in our family as well.
Now off to do some homework....